The interview

[fatesfolly]

 Rules

1. Leave a comment saying you want to be interviewed.
2. I'll reply and give you five questions to answer.
3. You'll update your LJ with the five questions answered.
4. You'll include this explanation.
5. You ask other people five questions when they want to be interviewed. And it just keeps going, and going, and going (hopefully!)

Here are my five questions and my answers as posed by ani_moore:

1. I don't believe we have ever met. :) What do you think are the three most important things I should know about you?
Three things:
ONE: I am inherently Southern. By that I don't mean that I hang on to old, antebellum ideas, but I do like to observe a certain decorum associated with being a lady. (which helps when it's time to be a submissive woman) I am polite and mindful of manners. Almost to the point of idiocy. People say that I am easily a doormat.

TWO: I have a constant war between my heart and my head. My heart sings and is creative and wants to be free. My head says that folly is stupid and there is no love for creativity and that most of what I do is stupid. This struggle has lasted most of my life.

THREE: I am fiercely loyal. I was taught honor early on and having a strong sense of justice makes me an excellent lieutenant on my friend's battlegrounds.

2. How has your definition of love changed as you have grown older?
I think I have finally figured out that there is no perfect love. It's all imperfect. I think I held on to the little girl dream of true love for too long. Love between family members, love between friends, love between lovers is all flawed because we are flawed.

I love my brother more than I ever could have loved any human being. He was my hero growing up. Seven years my senior, I learned most of what makes me me from him... musical tastes, food interests, values. When I went to college, I realized some of his values and tastes were narrow. Soon, I developed a different notion of which political party I should belong to. We have fought so many times because of our differences as adults and we both have done things to hurt each other. Our love has endured, but it's not like it was.

With my friends, there is love. But once self is inserted in the middle of the love, it becomes less perfect.

Many said I settled when I married my husband. But it was a good love from the beginning. After several years, I questioned it, thinking I had been wrong and that there was a more perfect love out there. I found another love, but even that was not perfect. I think now, I find happiness where I can in the love that I have with these men.

3. What is in your purse? :)
This is a funny question, because until my grandmother got sick, I hated using a purse. During her final weeks, I had to carry around her power of attorney papers and her living will, as well as her insurance cards and identification--  it all became a hassle to just carry in my hands.

Right now, I have a wallet-overfilled with change, Aveda lip gloss- in a neutral color, nail clippers- I have an over abundance of hang nails, various receipts I must keep for the estate, a protein bar, and two tickets to a road production of Cats for later in September. It's a small purse on purpose.

4. If you could have any one superpower for 24 hours, which would you choose, and what would you do with it?
Oooooo.. this is a good one. And I have an answer for you!

I recently read Nicholson Baker's Fermata. It's about this guy who discovers he has the ability to stop time for length and do things during the break. The things he did were fascinating and entertaining. He did lewd things like undress sexy women, but he did funny things like redress them in odd ways, with their bras on the outside or even leaving a hickey on their upper thigh so they'd wonder once time started again where it came from.
The friend that recommended the book and I love talking now about what we'd do if we could do that. Usually, I'm more good deed oriented, with a splash of spice added in. For example, I might stop time and surprise all the workers in the tax collector's office with a bud vase on their desk, but I might also want to stop time during a Broadway show and masturbate on stage while everyone was frozen and staring at me. The possibilities are endless!!

5. Use 10 adjectives to describe the way you feel about your life?
happy, curious, child-like, trusting, impatient, orphaned, afraid, inflexible, sly, and logical

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OK... let's see.

1. You have been given a scholarship to do anything you want to do. Money is not an object. What direction do you take?
2. What's your favorite holiday?
3. What has been your most embarrassing moment?
4. If you were a Olympian, what sport would you want to compete in?
5. The Perfect Woman Fairy visits and offers you the chance to assemble your perfect mate. What do you tell the PW Fairy you want?